Dating a super busy man
First of all, it’s difficult to develop a meaningful relationship when both of you are working 60-100 hours as week on a consistent basis.Add to that (and you mentioned this earlier about yourself), a lot of us get really competitive with our significant others about our careers.I’m guessing there are other readers out there that feel this way, especially when both people are working in the same field, firm, company, etc.
Our resumes mirror each other’s in a lot of ways, and I can’t help but feel the tension sometimes.
To know this for sure, ask yourself if it has now been more than a few weeks in a row that your date has been unavailable.
Whenever you ask him/her if you both can get together, does your partner always say that he/she has got an open house, or appointment, or convention going on.
I think you really need to assess what level the partnership is at before you make decisions or operating assumptions that will affect your career (or your finances, for that matter).
Regarding the job competitiveness: Let’s assume, for the sake of argument, that your resumes, your interpersonal skills, and your personalities are 100% the same — and so no one has a hobby or area of study that helps them bond with the interviewer better.