Dating how to play it cool
We all try to be our best selves in dating, and that’s fine. Ugh, do you ever hang out with someone who you feel you can’t be yourself around?
But, when you’re hiding big parts of yourself to try to appear more likable, that’s when you get in a rut. The encounter feels STIFLING, like you can’t breathe. When I try to act too serious to match my date’s vibe, I feel like a piece of my soul is dying.
Here’s what happens if you don’t: They think you’re someone you’re not.
Playing it cool looks like laughing at something you don’t actually think is funny, like a racist joke.
For years, I gave ambiguous answers because I had low self-esteem.
It means you’re thinking too much and you’re being untrue to yourself at the end of the day.Not showing your feelings invites them to be dishonest about theirs.What if they’re totally excited about you, but you’re too busy playing it cool to realize or tell them you feel the same?Hiding your flaws means they’re not getting to know the real you. For a while, I tried to hide it on first dates, but my mouth came out over time.I learned that it’s worth putting our flaws out on the table from the start.