Guide dating older man
And I've added a couple of my own tips for good measure, since I am the younger woman and all. DON' T point out how "cute" his first grey chest hair is (OOPS).
But I've been watching and compiled a list of DOs and DON' Ts from Jess's experience dating the sophisticated Dermot Mulroney as Fancypants, who's a whopping twelve years older.
There's already enough pressure when it comes to dating, why add more stress and think about the age thing if you really like this dude?
When I was 23, my friend taught me one of life’s greatest lessons: Older women make decisions fast.
She enjoys the fact that you’re not tainted and broken like many of the men her age. Older women have an extremely sensitive bullshit detector, so be 100% honest all of the time. If you want to have sex with her but don’t want to be her boyfriend, tell her. Believe me when I say your older woman is well aware of the age difference between you. If she brings it up, tell her your heart doesn’t care how old she is.
It’s the one thing she can’t compete with, and she’s smart enough to know youth in women, by itself, is attractive.
I’m not saying you can’t check out younger women when you’re alone, but when you’re together, this is an absolute no-no.
But you’re in luck — she’s going to be attracted to you before you even open your mouth. It’s going to end eventually, so don’t talk about a relationship with her. Don’t talk about your feelings and emotions and how you’re falling for her unless she does it first. She’s looking to enjoy herself because most of the men in her age range are not in the physical shape she desires and are already broken and destroyed. In order to succeed, she probably had to be smarter than the men around her.
She is drawn to you for the same reason so many men chase younger women: she is attracted by your youthful enthusiasm. If you are just a boy toy she turns to for sex, she will get bored with you quickly.